"We think of love as founded on admiration for a partner. Instead, a lot of the time, we should see love is an act of generosity towards our partner's less appealing sides.
We are not always able to diagnose and communicate what is really bothering us. Our partner's complaints may need to be translated for their deeper meaning. When we can manage it, we should focus on soothing and reassuring rather than heading back with equal force."
"The will to be generous isn't weakness, it's charity towards our partners frailties. Although it is gratifying to be admired, we will finally have tasted love when it is our weaknesses that inspire a kindly response.
Anyone we get together with will, overtime, require a considerable degree of generosity. That's why we call love – with good reason - hard work. It isn't a sign that love has gone wrong, but that it's grown into something mature, substantial, and worth valuing."
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